Starting with a new family is exciting, but it can also feel a little nerve-wracking. As a nanny, you’re stepping into the heart of someone’s home, learning their routines, and becoming a trusted presence for their children. The first few weeks are a golden window to build trust, lay a strong foundation, and show the family they are in great hands.

Here are some ways to ease into a new role and create lasting connections with both parents and children:

1. Start with Clear Communication

Parents want to feel confident that you’re on the same page. Ask plenty of questions about routines, preferences, house rules, and little details like favorite snacks or nap cues. Taking notes and repeating back what you’ve heard shows you’re attentive, invested, and ready to care for their child thoughtfully.

2. Learn the Family’s Rhythm

Every household has its own pace. Some families thrive on strict schedules, while others are more go-with-the-flow. Observe how things are done and ease yourself into their routine. Over time, you can bring your expertise to fine-tune routines, but in the beginning, flexibility and attentiveness go a long way.

3. Connect with the Kids on Their Level

Bonding with children often starts through play. Spend time discovering what sparks their curiosity, whether it’s dinosaurs, princesses, or building blocks. For little ones, simple activities like singing songs, reading, or playing peek-a-boo help them feel safe and comfortable. For older children, showing genuine interest in their hobbies builds trust and encourages connection.

4. Balance Warmth with Professionalism

Bringing love and joy into your role is essential, but professionalism is just as important. Arriving on time, being consistent, and respecting the family’s home all help create trust with parents and security for children. Dependable caregivers are the ones kids grow to rely on and bond with most.

5. Be Patient with Trust

Trust does not happen overnight. Handing over a child is a huge leap of faith for parents, and children often need time to adjust to a new caregiver. Be patient, continue showing warmth and consistency, and know that settling in can take a few weeks.

6. Share the Journey

Families love updates. A sweet photo from the park, a funny story, or a quick recap of the day helps parents feel connected and reassured. These small gestures strengthen relationships and show your care extends beyond the hours you’re in their home.

First Week Icebreakers: Easy Ways to Bond with Kids

Here are some tried-and-true activities that spark joy and build trust from day one:

Storytime Swap: Let the child pick their favorite book, then share one of your favorites.
Outdoor Adventure: Take a stroller walk, visit the playground, or plan a backyard scavenger hunt.
Creative Craft: Coloring, playdough, or simple DIY projects are fun and engaging.
Bake or Cook Together: Simple snacks like muffins or fruit kabobs create teamwork and lasting memories.
Music & Dance: Sing songs, try instruments, or have a living room dance party.
Child-Led Play: Follow their lead in pretend play or building activities to show you care about their world.

At Silver Lining

At Silver Lining Doula & Nanny Services, we know that building a bond with a new family is about more than just showing up. It’s about creating trust, consistency, and genuine connection. That’s why we match families and nannies who not only fit logistically but also click personally. With the right start, these relationships often grow into something lasting and meaningful.

Whether you’re a nanny stepping into a new role or a family welcoming a new caregiver, remember: the first few weeks set the tone for a relationship built on trust, care, and mutual respect.

Building Bonds that Last: How to Connect Quickly with a New Family